Tell me all about it, dear...

terri t - 2011-09-11 16:38:15
Of course, you are right in how you feel and certainly have reason to feel abused not only by the cousin but by your MIL. I do want to say,though, based on my experience with my mother's reasoning (read book please) that MIL probably doesn't think it is a big deal because she puts up with it. NOT THAT YOU HAVE TO DO THE SAME...NO WAY!
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beanie - 2011-09-11 17:51:07
Betrayal is a very hurtful thing, especially when it comes from someone one thinks of as a friend. Good for you for not letting it destroy you!
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Amy - 2011-09-11 20:47:48
I'm in total agreement with you. I can't stand the "blame the victim" mentality, especially when it comes from another woman. If she's not willing to stand up for you after you've been assaulted, she's not going to stand up for you on lesser matters. Maybe someday, she'll see what she's done wrong, until then, I'm so glad and happy for you that you are where you are, emotionally. You SHOULD be proud of yourself because you're doing a great job. By the way, as far as longing to be delightfully quirky, I think you can say, "mission accomplished." You're the most quirky-cool of all my friends.
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Jim - 2011-09-11 21:51:58
I'm really sorry that this had to happen but I also have to say how impressed I am by how very awesomely strong and resilient you are.
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Poolie - 2011-09-11 22:24:14
If it isn't love, it's fear. I am so very sorry, LA. She is obviously deeply afraid of something. My guess is that it's the truth.
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Stephanie - 2011-09-12 09:41:53
I'm so glad you see this thing for what it is - MIL's problem, not yours. One of the few good things about aging is that I don't care nearly as much as I used to about what others think of me. I no longer turn myself inside out trying to be the person others want me to be. It's truly liberating, isn't it? Hugs.
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michele - 2011-09-12 13:37:20
I agree with Poolie, she's probably deathly afraid of something, be it fear, or rejection (from George) or just conflict in general. Doesn't excuse her actions, or make your feelings any less valid. Another thought tho - MIL is from that era when "these things" weren't talked about, and it was always the woman's fault. Perhaps she's playing the ostrich and hoping it will all just go away, after all, no real harm was done, right? *snort* I'm also happy that you've realized other's opinions of you should have bearing on your opinion of you; I still haven't gotten that one down yet :/
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