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Poolie - 2010-04-19 14:45:00
Good thing that you are keeping a close eye on FIL. I wish you all the best, my friend.
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Pam L - 2010-04-19 15:07:54
If I worried too much about me and as an elder, I'd go nuts right now. My Mom died of complications from very early onset Alzheimers at age 70 and my Dad, who just turned 90 an lived all these years without her, is now himself in late stages Alzheimers. My sister and I ponder if we would even get the gene test if it were readily available or just hope our kids are as kind to us as we were/ are to our parents. I am happy to report that so far I should be safe with my boys. My other hope is that , if I do end up with Alzheimers, that I am docile like my Mom was, accepting her condition, and not turning into and aggressive , impulsive troublemaker as my Dad has, which is hard to take as he was the nicest, most supportive and caring Dad anyone could want.
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beanie - 2010-04-19 15:21:37
Is it possible to find an occasional care-giver (like a babysitter, only for the elderly) who can help your MIL now and then so she CAN get out of the house? Check with the local assisted living places and see if they can recommend someone...
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terri t - 2010-04-19 15:40:36
Sadly, this is a condition that all of us may face. And the solutions are not great if the younger family members don't want to step up...Hope your FIL is just hoarding jelly packs...
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gbw - 2010-04-19 16:11:42
I hope your MIL will be wise and seek out someone to help with FIL's care. Remind her that if the caregiver caves in where does that leave the one needing care...you know where I am speaking from {{HUGS}}
We need to get our playdate in!
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stepfordtart - 2010-04-19 19:00:58
over here, the charity that I work for runs a sitting service (sometimes called a befriending service. Its definitely worth thinking of if such a thing exists over there. Ours makes sure the sitter gets to know the cared-for really well first and its a real lifeline for the regular carer. Good luck with all that - L's dad has dementia and is in residential care so I know how difficult it can be. s x
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Bozoette Mary - 2010-04-19 20:25:20
Ah, that is worrisome. I hope it doesn't come to that. You might want to look into adult day care - it saved my mother when my dad was out there.
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Stephanie - 2010-04-19 20:57:34
I recently told my kids that, when the time comes, I WANT to go to a nursing home. I just can't bear the thought of putting my loved ones through what I see other caregivers going through.
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michele - 2010-04-20 13:39:46
Here in NJ we have places that offer respite care just for these situations, but I haven't seen any adult day care. Another option is a day nurse/au pair kind of thing. A coworker hired a caregiver to watch his mom while he was at work. The caregiver made sure his mom took the meds, ate lunch, didn't wander and also did a bit of light cleaning and laundry.
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Anon - 2010-04-22 20:51:35
Wow. Those guys at the gym are probably looking at you and wondering why *you* don't have a job. Hello, pot? Kettle calling! Did you ever stop to think that there's a recession, maybe some of them have lost their jobs, maybe some of them are on shift work and can only go to the gym during the day? Hypocritical much?
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