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Tell me all about it, dear...
Poolie - 2008-05-14 10:00:28
I hear you and I have felt the same way many times. But Mick is right. Your time is coming.
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Jeanette - 2008-05-14 10:35:50
I too was married young and had children young. You still have a young child to be responsible for but when he is grown, look out baby! The world is your oyster!!
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hil - 2008-05-14 10:45:05
There is nothing wrong with aging in reverse! You have been so mature for so long, in a few years you are going to have your chance to do whatever you like. I'm thinking of joining the peace corps when my kids are grown.
And, plus, since you have had an epiphany, there is no sense in maintaining this moral maturity. Go have some fun NOW!
(I personally have had to make an EFFORT to have more fun lately. At twenty would I have double pieced my nose and kept ducks in my bathtub? No. But now I do!)
I also think the hyper-responsibility comes from being in unsafe home environments as a kid. No one else is going to look out for you, so you must look out for yourself, and keep yourself safe. Only now am I learning its ok to jaywalk, you know?
You aren't dead yet, jeesh! Go have fun now that you can appreciate it! xoxo
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Stephanie - 2008-05-14 12:26:00
Don't write Las Vegas off so quickly... Remember - right before you met Mick you felt certain that you'd never find love... I wish you many happy adventures!
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Jenn - 2008-05-14 14:07:02
Oh honey... hangovers, one-night-stands and scars can and should be lived without. Moi qui parle... You'll have your chance. But I think that then you'll see that what you're living is worth ten times more than the world "out there." Big comforting hug. Love you. -J
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Sandy - 2008-05-14 16:36:59
Why don't you go to college? It's never too late.
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Jim - 2008-05-14 16:38:09
Las Vegas... I just got back from my annual week there for a technical conference. I suppose everyone should go there once just to say they've been there (and I do wish that at least once this conference would be held the same week our school system has a week off so my wife could come along) but once you've toured some of the more outrageous places along the strip (Luxor, New York New York, Paris, Belaggio, and The Venetian) there's not much to do that doesn't involve paying three times what sanity would dictate for show tickets, eating way too much food, getting drunk, and blowing your money on gambling.
I'd much rather visit London and Paris and Vienna and Tokyo. (And New York and Washington and Boston and San Francisco and the Grand Canyon, etc.)
It's not too late for you and Mick to have some fun and adventure and store up some interesting memories.
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Bozoette Mary - 2008-05-14 16:54:22
Go to Paris -- the real Paris -- first. Heck, go to Glacier National Park first! And when you do go to Vegas, go also to Red Rock Canyon and Hoover Dam and Tecopa Hot Springs. And school? Yeah, do that too. Just because you can't see it happening now doesn't mean it will never happen.
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Terri T. - 2008-05-14 17:06:00
Note gonna tell you that you don't have the right to wallow in some misery of "what-ifs" but I am going to say that there are some people who never figured out who they are at all and in spite of having all the money in the world, they are not happy. some of them never had children, some of them never found true love, some of them don't rock the world with their wit, wisdom, cooking talents and zest for life. I think you really have the best of both worlds but go ahead and wallow....you deserve it...then take a long bubbly bath and drink....
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Wallowing in misery - 2008-05-14 18:15:00
Suggest you take the advice Katharine Hepburn gave her whining daughter Chelsea (Jane Fonda) in the movie "On Golden Pond:"
"Don't you think that everyone looks back on their (past) with a certain amount of bitterness and regret about something? You're a big girl now. Aren't you tired of it all? Bore, bore. It doesn't have to ruin your life, darling. Life marches by, Chels. I suggest you get on with it."
And I say: Oh, poor you. Why don't you get a job instead of moaning about how you don't have any money and how you never get to do anything? Boo hoo hoo. Only YOU can make it happen. Take matters into your own hands, make your own money, and do what you want to do.
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Rosie - 2008-05-14 18:17:22
We all have our disappointments. I am one of the ones who had to be responsible, and then I got to have fun and travel. But I sure wish that I had been more careful about raising my kids, etc. I get mad at myself because I couldn't stand to do the whole PTA mom thing. (Mostly because the other moms were Southern California gorgeous-ponytail wearing perfectionist-minivan-driving-soccermom-
elitists who looked down on short fat stationwagon driving moms like me.
Again, we all have our regrets, and we can't do everything each lifetime. Besides, I'm 48, and I am SO looking forward to the next 25 years! My mom is 80 and she STILL takes cruises! So baby, we've got at least another 35 years to look forward to!
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Dichroic - 2008-05-14 21:07:30
I'm guessing I'm one of the people you see as getting to have adventure - so I'll point out that of those adventures, the three that involved meeting you in person were in three different states. (Oh, you think those weren't adventures or weren't a little scary for me? I bet driving Phx to San Diego solo was as big a deal for me as flying cross-country was for you.)
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typewriter - 2008-05-25 04:42:17
I guess by some yardsticks I've been to a lot of places. I remember being eight or nine years old and my grandmother asked me what it felt like to ride on an airplane. I don't see any reason to assume that you won't get to go places, too. But of all the places I've been, I'd happily give up the skank bars and Vegas first. Unless you really love to gamble, I urge you to skip Vegas and come to San Francisco instead. You can always drive up to Tahoe--it's three hours away.
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