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Tell me all about it, dear...
Katherine - 2008-01-31 10:22:11
When you get this figured out, please drop me a line and share the info. Today's post was eerily familiar. Dammit.
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hil - 2008-01-31 10:24:12
Hey! I'm a bonbon eating lay-about, and let me tell ya, the water's fine! :) I never see you over at my new place. Come over and see me sometime and check out my goofy new layout. Hugs to everybody! xoxo, hil
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Jenn - 2008-01-31 12:24:35
Sometimes it's almost more than I can manage to get out of bed in the morning, let alone do everything I have to do to go through my life as a singleton. I can't imagine having to make a "home" for two other people. I don't know how to help you with this except to say that it's the season for the "mean reds" and that if you just hang in there a while longer you'll start feeling better. I think you're wonderful and maybe that will help a little, too. Big hug and much love. -J
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Diane - 2008-01-31 13:09:20
This is a really hard one. I don't know a woman alive that hasn't privately thought she wasn't contributing enough if she worked from home at one time or another, especially if all the kids were in school. But just look at everything that wouldn't get done and how you'd be doing twice as much as anyone if you essentially worked two jobs. Be kind to yourself. You're awesome just as you are.
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Pam L - 2008-01-31 13:14:11
The hardest adjustment I had to make when I went from working outside the home to working at home, was in my attitude about me. I felt like I was doing next to nothing, even though I was doing it all at home, the baby, the house, helping with the business, all the older kid stuff, school, Drs., bills, taxes, you name it, I did it, but it felt like less, not more, because I did all that when I was working outside too, I was just more harried. 14 years later, I don't worry about it anymore. I work at home, I contribute and I do all the house stuff, mostly, too, although now with one kid, not two. I even give myself a break and some days ...don't cook!, yep, reheat, order a pizza, let my man cook, whatever, and almost every day I take one hour for me in the middle of the afternoon to regroup before the evening's festivities of dinner, activities, the rest of the work and laundry. And I still steal some time for reading and/or relaxing later, cuz we're BOTH worth it!
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Rosie - 2008-01-31 14:50:18
But...but...is there something WRONG with being a Bon-Bon eating layabout? Fer Chrissakes, DON'T tell Miss Hiss, she'll be devastated! Meanwhile, I certainly understand the "Am I doing enough" mentality, I get hit with it every day when my house stays a mess and I haven't cleaned it, even though I had a whole two hours between getting home from work and going to bed. In fact, I worried less when I really WAS a bon bon eating layabout. BTW, I looked at the pic you posted of you and Mick, and my first, unbidden thought was, "Why does she say she's fat? She's not fat!" So there.
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Katherine - 2008-01-31 18:03:38
Hey, I've been meaning to ask, would you send me links to your non blog writing, I would love to read it!
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Amy - 2008-01-31 18:13:58
Where is this magical line that constitutes enough? The beauty of your relationship with Mick is that you get to decide when your efforts are satisfactory.
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dichroic - 2008-02-01 01:43:17
Good people don't not do bad things. Good people do bad things and realize it and admit they were wrong.
I am very pleased to hear that your work is going well enough to let you contribute than Mick's full-time salary, but sorry the brain chemicals are screwing with you again.
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Stephanie - 2008-02-01 05:39:57
The Ex used to be a champ at making me feel inadequate, even though I was working FULL TIME. His take was that, because I earned less money than he did, I was doing less. Argh.
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Cosmic - 2008-02-01 11:58:48
I am missing something here. I didn't know you were working. How did I miss that?
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