Tell me all about it, dear...

Killercat - 2006-10-22 10:25:07
You make me smile too.
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Bozoette Mary - 2006-10-22 10:33:52
You've done some amazingly hard work; time to dance for sure!
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purple chai - 2006-10-22 10:45:33
This may be something so obvious that everybody's got it by now, but I think it's just that you had the odd misfortune to be surrounded by bullies, and that's what bullies do, try to knock other people down so they can feel good. Just your mother and Mike would have been enough bullies to keep everyone around them down, and to make them all too afraid -- as in they had to suck up to the bully for their own protection -- to admit the good that they saw in you. Am I making any sense? Everybody didn't have to be a bully, there just had to be one really dominant one in your environment at all times to make everyone respond like that, which clearly, they did. You were fine all along, just surrounded by bullies and/or other people who were too afraid to tell you how good you really were. It only goes to show what a totally kick-ass mother you must be when you look at the miracle that is Alex, that he came through unscathed and unconverted to that way of thinking.
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justmouse - 2006-10-22 11:02:26
even though you know your families are total asshats, i think it hurts so much because they are the one who are supposed to love you WITHOUT RESERVATION. when they don't, it hurts that much more. but thank God you're one smart cookie, and you figured this all out in time to appreciate the people who really DO love you for who you are. soooo many women (and men too) never figure that out, and just continue to beat themselves up every day for the rest of their lives for something that isn't even their fault. you are wacky, and snarky, and loving, and clever, and witty, and totally off the wall. that's why we all love you xoxoxox
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zen - 2006-10-22 11:58:22
i agree with mary, it's time to dance! you are so beautiful and smart and funny and creative and kind and...i could go on forever! lol....i want you to be able to look in the mirror and see the person we see. the brave LA, the courageous LA, the wonderful mother LA, the artist LA, the writer LA, the great friend LA, the beautiful spiky-haired goddess LA, the sarcastic clever intelligent LA, the one we all love so much LA..........~zen
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Katherine - 2006-10-22 13:10:30
What I've decided about my family of origin [and their unkind ways] is that it's all got nothing to do with me and everything to do with them. No amount of accomplishment on my part could ever alter their perception of me. So it's not about me, then, it's all about them.
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Ari - 2006-10-22 15:54:24
Cowards are never rewarded, and you are more than brave. I'm glad you figured out that it wasn't about you. That's a huge thing to understand.
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Holly - 2006-10-22 20:22:13
I've always been an admirer of people who are true to themselves, regaardless of what other people think and dont' feel the need to put on false airs just to impress somebody so they can feel better about themselves. Other's who have no sense of self, or esteem find that very threatening because they aren't able to do it, and it makes them think about things they don't want to deal with. Face it, its easier to just go with the flow, than to be true to yourself. Keep on being who you are, you are light years ahead of them as a person. Real beats phony anyday!!
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Lana - 2006-10-22 21:39:50
I never said anything about sex... just reconnecting with an old ex after say a dozen or so years... it is a little thrilling.... nothing will come from it we both know this... ( his life is in Co and mine is in MI ) nonetheless it is something to look forward to... Thanks for thinking of my feelings... Much love my friend...!
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Denver doug - 2006-10-23 00:57:45
You are who you are and are so very open about it. I think we all love you for who you are, without reservations.
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