Tell me all about it, dear...

Cat - 2005-08-10 11:44:50
I'm really sorry the way things have turned out, but you have gained faith in yourself. Maybe that will help make this the storm before the calm?
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Deb - 2005-08-10 11:45:44
Now the pressing question is - how does that epiphany change your life?
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ladybug-red - 2005-08-10 11:49:53
{HUGS} I wish there was something I could say. Sadly, I have nothing to offer but support.
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queerfatgirl - 2005-08-10 11:52:06
LA -- I'm just sorry. You deserve so much better. You are so inpirational to so many people online.
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Petrouchka - 2005-08-10 12:08:26
Three thoughts: (1) They say a leopard cannot change his spots, and to a certain extent I definitely think that is true, (2) Where do you go from here? Are you moving on? (3) Hopefully this won't mean the end of your journal. You've got a lot of friends out here who just aren't around to give you support in person, but hopefully we count for something.
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Summer Gale - 2005-08-10 12:42:52
I'm sorry this happened and he did whatever he did but you haven't said that you don't love him anymore. Take your time thinking about what you want to do and be very absolutely certian of your path and it's rightness. Otherwise forgive him .. again.
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Holly - 2005-08-10 13:05:12
I'm so sorry. My ex is the kind who is nice on the outside, but really only as a front to manipulate people in to getting his way. I'm really sorry, you deserve much better.. ((Hugs))
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Pandi - 2005-08-10 13:24:17
This is one of those times when we're sharing a brain, chica. I know what it's like to lose faith in one's spouse and marriage. While I didn't come to the same conclusions you did about the wasband's personality, I did lose faith that anything would ever be better, or even different. And when I did, well, you know the rest. If you ever need to talk, you have my info. I'm serious. It appears you've come to the place I was just about a year ago.
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Pandi P.S. - 2005-08-10 13:25:28
I love you.
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Amy - 2005-08-10 13:30:02
I'm sorry, LA. It makes me sad to realize that there really are people we love who are just shitty human beings. I've been thinking the same thing about my mother lately, crazy or just plain evil doesn't really matter if the result is the same. Now on to the harder part... figuring out how best to take care of YOURSELF, in light of what you have come to know.
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skibigsky - 2005-08-10 13:33:58
I'm so sorry. I was there many years before (although at least the guy had the decency to go and die on me, saving me the trouble of having to do something about it, but leaving me with the dichotomy of romanticizing him, and remembering why/how he died, and how incredibly selfish it all was). It sucks. Big hugs to you.
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Jenn - 2005-08-10 14:12:37
23 years of faith lost. It must have been something big to make you realize. You deserve the best. Remember that anything less is cheating yourself, ok honey!?
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colz - 2005-08-10 14:13:20
I'm sorry. your descriptions sound a lot like the assistant I'm having trouble with. Only he's been fired about 30 times. And not for bad work. And yeah, he's always the victim. Selfishly, I hope you keep this journal. And if you need my phone #, email me and I will send it. Take care of yourself.
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Witchful - 2005-08-10 14:25:46
I don't know what to say. I just wanted you to know that I'm reading and I care for you.
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Bozoette Mary - 2005-08-10 14:57:05
What a brave realization! So -- now you have to sweep away the ashes and move on. Watch your back, though. He'll blame you.
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lex - 2005-08-10 15:00:02
Be strong, LA, and love yourself. Now that the lights are "on," you have brighter days ahead of you.
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Red - 2005-08-10 15:03:52
LA, I hope things will work out okay for you. You're a smart, wonderful person, and you deserve so much more than what you've got. Whatever you decide to do, I hope you'll be happy. You know that I think you should leave him, but I know that you have to do what's right for you. And for your kids. Big HUGS from me to you. Take care, and I'm here if you need to talk.
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Eglantine - 2005-08-10 15:44:21
I hope it works out for you. I also hope you don't intend to stay with him.
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MJ - 2005-08-10 16:31:55
Simple fact: you deserve better. I'm looking forward to you getting it. ::hugs::
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red-wine - 2005-08-10 17:44:10
Shit, LA, I'm sorry. But I agree with Cat--you've got all the tools to come out of this okay. What's next for you? Or are you still sorting out? We're here for ya, Mom.
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Cosmic - 2005-08-10 18:33:40
I spent 17 years trying to find the good in my Dad after he took off out of my life. My mother tried to tell me he was just self-centered and was not capable of looking beyond himself. WHen I finally met him again, it was apparent that she had been telling the truth. A little part of me died. He was an egotistical bastard. He had no love for anyone but himself. When he died, I couldn't even mourn him. Some people are just like that. Sad. Email if you want my number. I'd love to chat. Or send me yours.
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Cruel-Irony - 2005-08-10 18:53:47
What a profound and sad realization of a very deep truth. Take care and best wishes.
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Katherine - 2005-08-10 22:10:44
Sad realization. Things will work out. Please let me help if I can.
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Mayhem - 2005-08-11 00:00:28
Know you will do what you need to do. Hope we don't loose contact because of all of this. Do not let it undermine your health and the health and well being of your sons.
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Soulstyce - 2005-08-11 01:17:00
*hugs* I'm sorry hun
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Sif - 2005-08-11 05:23:56
I'm so sorry. What a terrible realisation to come to. I'm thinking of you.
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Kat - 2005-08-11 10:14:08
What courage it takes to face such a truth, knowing that now come choices. My hats off to you. May you find peace in your decisions and strength to do whatever comes next.
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Autumn - 2005-08-11 14:54:39
You poor dear. It hurts and it sucks, but it makes you stronger for having learned the truth.
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Denver doug - 2005-08-11 16:17:49
Tail end Charlie here again. Those before me have said it all I think and better than I can. You have my deepest admiration and respect. Just remember, we are all here for you and in cyber-touch with you. I repeat the plea, please keep your journal lest we worry Milady. Hugs
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squarepants - 2005-08-12 23:01:07
Again, too wrapped up with my own life to read about yours 'til now. I'm sorry I'm late and I am sorry this has happened, but I admire you more than I can say for facing this truth. I have known people like Mike. They can really make you love them until you just don't anymore. I think about you a lot already, even though I don't say much, and I'll continue to keep you in my thoughts. Please come back now and then and tell us how you're doing. Love and love and love to you.
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EX - 2005-08-14 02:23:29
So I was watching DEF poetry Jam on Hbo last night and I thought of you because there was this woman reading this poem about how much she hates men. She was really pissed. Then I came here and read this today. Sounds like you are about as pissed off as she is. Except it sort of seemed like she was gleefully jumping of of a fence. Don't know if you are doing that just yet. Anyway, I have no idea what to say so I am just babbling, and I hope you don't go on hiatus because well, then I would miss out on reading you. *Hugs* PS: typepad is cool.
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EX - 2005-08-14 02:24:34
I don't know if this is posted twice, or if I am just an idoit. Sorry if it does. So I was watching DEF poetry Jam on Hbo last night and I thought of you because there was this woman reading this poem about how much she hates men. She was really pissed. Then I came here and read this today. Sounds like you are about as pissed off as she is. Except it sort of seemed like she was gleefully jumping of of a fence. Don't know if you are doing that just yet. Anyway, I have no idea what to say so I am just babbling, and I hope you don't go on hiatus because well, then I would miss out on reading you. *Hugs* PS: typepad is cool.
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