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Tell me all about it, dear...
Denver doug - 2005-06-21 00:31:21
In my awkward way I am trying to say that you are the one who stands between Wolf and the world until you can raise him to the point he can cope on his own. In the meantime helping him see and accept his difference.
Thank you for your kind comments LA.
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cat - 2005-06-21 02:46:37
Speaking as a lifelong oddball, I would very much perfer to be unaware of my status of "differentness." It sounds to me like Wolf is a young man to be admired...and many great of history's heros were labeled "odd," "strange," "unsuual," "eccentric," etc. It's just a hunch, but I have a feeling Wolf will do great things during his life.
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Stephanie - 2005-06-21 07:09:08
One of the best times I ever had was the night a couple of Scottish guys took me to a punk club in London (late seventies). When we arrived, they advised me not to speak because my American accent might cause trouble. Talk about a rough crowd. I loved it. Another memorable "punk" moment was passing out in front of Joe Strummer at a Clash concert in NYC. Those WERE the days...
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Melissa - 2005-06-21 08:39:49
When I became a Goth, it was much the same--I was finally being ostracised for something I had CHOSEN rather than something I had little control over. I was extremely quiet as a kid, but had a habit of occasionally saying something that would make a room go dead quiet. I guess my perspective was different enough from so many years of being the quiet outside observer that it usually threw people a little off track when I gave it. Also, being the one kid in the room who knows what poverty and abuse are like will often make one a wee bit different... Perhaps some kids are hurt once they realize what it is that makes them different, but I know that personally, once I understood, I was proud. I hope Wolf's journey to that point isn't too painful.
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Deb - 2005-06-21 08:59:15
Interesting. I've always played the complete white bread, cookie cutter part except what comes out of my mouth. I tend say things people don't expect for effect. It's hard with the kids but you can't prepare them completely for that dawning moment when they get it. Reminds me of the time my son was crying to me. He told me the big boys called him a cry baby. What did you do, I asked. I cried, he replied. No matter how I explained it, he just couldn't get that cause and effect.
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bettyalready - 2005-06-21 09:54:26
I know what you're saying...meaning I'd probably be sensitive too. I do think that people appreciate kids that are not the "norm". This is on a different spectrum altogether, but Boo has SO much energy, which is not at all appreciated by my mother, but I can tell some people just love it. My oldest has a very hard time socially and as a younger kid, there were a few that "got" her. Now I tend to love the really really high energy kids or kids who are not the "norm". Not the best way to word it, but the best I can say at this early time.
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Holly - 2005-06-21 10:17:29
That's one reason I love the sci fi crowd I hang with. The only time I don't feel I'm being judged is around them because to us, their is no wierd (unless you are way way way out there, as in scary out there), everybody accepts everybody for who they are, and no conversation topic is too strange, and nobody is looking you over judging if you fit the right "type" or not as there is no "type". My son is a very indvidual type person. He still wants to fit in and be accepted, but he also already has a very strong sense of "if they don't like me as I am than its thier loss not mine". I'm so proud that he has already made it clear that he has certain values he finds more important than impressing somebody or going with the group to have friends. he also isn't afraid to say exactly what he thinks, sometimes being a little too honest. Personally I've always looked down on those that have to be like everyone else, and wear/do/say whatever is popular just to fit in. after all who wants to be a sheep. I relish in being different. freaking out people (nicely) is fun.
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MJ - 2005-06-21 11:15:15
I hear you -- I have worries about some of Gab's personality quirks and how they will ultimately affect her social life and self-image. I think it's one of the hardest parts of being a parent -- seeing what's coming and not being able to shelter the baby because it's a lesson they have to learn on their own.
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Autumn - 2005-06-21 12:43:51
Smiles and waves from a former spike-haired, ripped fishnet wearing punk.
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