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Tell me all about it, dear...
Ladybugge - 2004-05-15 13:05:53
Yes, it really sucks. It's the life of a crip, and I've been blessed to have a friend who became disabled fifteen years before me to hold my hand through a lot of that - over the phone. We've never met, as she lives on her sofa in Michigan, and we haven't been able to meet. Hang in there, love. I know it's not the same as meat/meet space, but you've got a lot of friends pulling for you here.
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Ladybugge - 2004-05-15 13:09:10
A different thought - a lot of 'senior' activities and resources are available to crips as well. In my old home town the senior bus could be called to bring a crip shopping, to a bridge game or whatever. I don't know if you are willing to try that avenue, it can be awfully depressing on the bus with people close to twice my age. But it's something. {{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}
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Meg - 2004-05-15 13:31:54
Are you sure your offline friends really feel like that? Sometimes it's easy to attribute feelings to other that just aren't there. If they don't realise how much you would like to see you, let them know. Or, you could always join the PTA at Wolf's school...(runs and hides under the desk)
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Trinity Sixty-Three - 2004-05-15 13:56:20
I'll call you, but I always feel like I am imposing. Then again, I am not sure if I am someone you'd like to really talk to:) xoxoxo
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LR - 2004-05-15 14:14:43
I live in the country. Not the suburbs. I've lived in a European city too. I understand if you can't drive or if an illness keeps you in the house.
Maybe you could *make* friends with older people. There might be some in your neighborhood. You might invite those people who work to a block party and tell them to bring their parents, heck whole families. Make it a Block/ Family Reunion.
I joined the Order of the Eastern Stars. It means a 120 mi trip for me and that's on a weeknight. I don't often go (like once every 2 months) and all the people are old.
I like them. I'm 32.
The great thing about older people is they *do* have freetime, they understand illness, pain, and marriages that suck. These women went through it before Mary Tyler Moore flipped her beret up to the clouds.
Think about it.
Blessings
LR
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Trance - 2004-05-15 14:40:05
It's hard. More often than not, I have to literally BEG people to pick my non-mobile ass up. More often than not, I go out with my dad, because if I didn't, I wouldn't be going out at all. I live fairly far from most of my friends, and no one wants to bother picking me up, taking me home, and all of that other bullshit. If I'm not dating anyone, forget it. It seems like younger people just don't fucking get it. I wish more people would understand that one day they could be in this position too - lonely as fuck, no one to talk to all damn day, nothing to do, scared as hell, and absolutely STARVED for adult interaction. I swear I'd throw huge elaborate lunches if I thought anyone would actually show up. The rift between the lives of my friends and my life has just become too huge to bridge, I guess.
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Amy - 2004-05-16 07:42:17
Sweetie, I've been trying for 3 days to compose an email to you, and I swear I can't think of a single decent thing to say that might help or make you feel better, other than to tell you I'm thinking of you and maybe chat you up a little. I woke up this morning with that being the very first thing on my agenda since I have a rare moment of uninterrupted time and privacy before the fam rolls out of bed, and guess what??? Neither of my stupid emails is working! I suspect the new computer is the culprit, but by the time Ian gets up and (hopefully) fixes it, it'll be time for me to get started on the mad whirl of errands, housework and homework I'd rather not do but must. So this message is lame and pitiful and boring as fuck, but I wanted to let you know I've been thinking of you constantly over the past week and sending you much love. I'm very glad your sister-in-law was able to be there for you and help you get some insight.
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